The Art of Planning Future Successes

In planning future successes, there is no right or wrong but rather choices made to best address the current situation at hand. Whether there was a lesson to be learned or just another episode of running away from our very own insecurities, only history and hindsight will reveal that to us in due season.

My mom Texan Earthly Terese, used to tell me all the time that, “In planning for future successes in all areas of our lives, always use history and old memories as a reference of where we were, where we had been, and what we had experienced.”

It should always be a point of reference but never a guide. If it is used as a guide then the future never changes. However, if it is used as a point of reference then the future will always be fresh and new, and as we make it to be.

According to my Italian foster mom Carol, occasionally we cannot help ourselves in reminiscing old memories from past events in our lives. Although memories are lovely and should be appreciated, we need to be careful not to start living in the past. While our relationships and the various events were built and took place in certain conditions and on certain expectations, everything changes, including people.

In planning future successes, my Malaysian mom Nyah, taught me that all changes do not have to be abrupt, shocking, or awe-inspiring; rather, it is more about making small shifts that will result in permanent, rooted changes within us.

If we look deep within ourselves, we will find that we, too, are not exempt from experiencing the changes from within. Whether we are moving forward, sideways, or in reverse, we are not immune to changing our opinion, our beliefs, and our take on life. This is because we all have free will to follow what we think is best for ourselves.

Unfortunately, what may be the best for us may not be the best for others, and likewise what may be the best for others may not necessarily be the best for us. Sometimes a person may be labeled selfish when his decision benefits himself; however, we are not privy to the thought process he used to arrive at that decision. No one absolutely knows what is truly in the heart of hearts of that individual. Whether someone fits the label of being selfish or unselfish is ultimately up to the individual person who has to make that tough decision.

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